The Caterpillar Who Grew It's Wings

About a month ago I was let down terribly. Relationship issues. Trouble in what became my own little personal paradise  .  I couldn’t imagine moving on from such a sad situation. I was let down and disappointed. Distraught .  I mean I tried my darndest, but in the end, it didn’t work👷‍♀️ .  I hate when life goes like that. Whether it’s a romantic relationship, a job, a friendship, a project — when you try your best and it doesn’t work, it sucks.  Still if in the end, you know you did your best there is satisfaction to be found . How? Well, as long as you’re breathing you can try again  . The following affirmations were birthed out of a relationship that I wanted to work so bad but didn’t. ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Affirmations For When It Didn't Work It didn’t work, but I tried I am a queen . God enlarges my territory. He gives me space. My faith has large magnitudes. My faith cancels out fear. I am dedicated ...

This week my focus is victory . Synonyms for victory you ask? S uccess. Triumph. Achievement. Conquering.  How awesome is it to feel that? To be that?  As a mom, who's still growing as I'm raising my daughter, these words can seem further or closer to my immediate truth -- just depending on what day it is 🤷‍♀️.  Some days I'll feel like I've got this adult-thing in the bag. Other days, I question my capabilities -- to take care of my child, to take care of myself.   It's not uncommon for me to feel defeated, but like a man thinketh, so he is . So I wrote these affirmations for days I need to be reminded, that " victory is mine "! I live a victorious life. I am victorious in Jesus. I am an overcomer. I am a leader. I have the power to change the flow of whatever environment I'm in.  I choose my battles wisely. I am a winner.  I overcome. I finish strong. So it is.

 I am grateful for my child. I am the best parent I can be because I am the best person I can be. When my child does well I am content. When my child does not do well, I am content. I allow my child to make mistakes and I allow myself to make mistakes. My child's behavior doesn't affect the love and consistency I give her. I am proud of the way I've raised my child. I am an intentional parent.  I take joy in giving my child the attention, discipline, and love she requires. I give myself grace when I am not doing my best. I give my child grace when she is not doing her best. I parent out of wisdom. I parent with the relationship in mind. I am okay with making decisions that my child won't always like or understand.  I am parenting with long-term goals in mind. Parenting isn't easy, but it is worth it.  Parenting is my biggest investment. I am excited about all the good returns.  So it is.

I am disciplined. I do what I say I will do. I discipline myself, so I enjoy the benefits of a disciplined life. I believe in myself and I believe what I say. I trust myself to complete things.  I am disciplined even when I don't feel like it.  I enjoy living a disciplined life. I choose discipline over comfort. I trust myself because I keep my promises to myself. I believe me when I say I will achieve something and I know I'll make it happen. My consistent motivation comes from within and my discipline helps me to succeed. I am proud of my discipline. Discipline takes me far. Discipline enhances me. I am happy with the fruits of my discipline. I believe God wants me to live a disciplined life. God helps me to live a disciplined life. So it is. 

Every time my cousins and I get together we have the inevitable conversation about hair. We call it "The Hair Chronicles". African-American women (and textured girlies) can have complicated relationships with hair. And from fine to kinky, my cousins and I are no exception. A hairstyle can make or break a look, even a gal's confidence. Everybody might not understand that last part and don't need to, but if you know you know! It's a real thing. With that: here's to our hair, in all its glory! Affirmations for Healthy Hair [Growth] My hair is beautiful.  My hair is at peak health because I am at peak health. I am satisfied with my hair's length and I am satisfied with it's natural texture. I love my hair texture whether it is long or short. As I learn to accept and take care of my hair, I learn to accept and take care of myself. My hair is beautiful. My hair is the crown God gave to me. My healthy hair is a reflection of my healthy self: BIG, wild, femini...

My soul is at rest. My mind is at rest. My body is at rest. I am diligent, but balanced. I am not addicted to busyness.  I don't overwork myself. I don't substitute social media for rest. I use devices to enhance my rest and not to replace it. Rest resets my mind.  Rest resets my emotions. I am not overly ambitious in work goals or personal goals. I am where I need to be. I strive to be my best while staying balanced. Rest increases my creativity. Rest increases my efficiency. When I rest I relax. I am feminine as I relax. I am free as I relax. I have a healthy relationship with rest. I make rest a priority because I enjoy it. I deserve to rest. Psalm 62:5-6 So it is!

I am inspired. My inspiration keeps me motivated. I am driven. My purpose drives me. My life is not dull. I see beauty and opportunity in everything. I have a healthy relationship with challenges. I am constantly learning.  I am curious. I am excited about what God has next for me. I am inspired by people who know more and do more than me. I want to do all that I've been placed here to do. I am refreshed. I am at peace. I walk in passion. My passion is contagious. I inspire others.  I am inspired! So it is. 

I'm grateful today for life. I allow life to be exactly how it is. I do not try and control situations. I do not desire self-control, but God-control.  I allow sounds of nature to relax me. I take deep breaths and look up at the sky. I will not attempt to present myself in a way other than who I am. My spirit is strong. I'm bold to be myself in all situations. I'm still learning me and I love what I've learned. I am evolving. I don't attempt to force others to have good feelings toward me. I have good feelings toward me. I acknowledge my weaknesses, but I don't submit to them. I recognize weaknesses in others, but I don't judge them. I don't live with regrets. I am at peace with who I am. My life is grand. My life is simple.

Lately, I've been compiling a list of affirmations to keep on tap when I need a quick pick-me-up 🏝️. As I reboot this blog, there will be a heavy emphasis on these affirmative pieces.  Affirmations are such an important part of my life. While I'm not always consistently speaking them, I want to be. So I'll be using this blog as a type of accountability system. To be intentional in living out what I so firmly believe in: that life and death are in the power of the tongue 👅. As you read these affirmations, say them out loud. Say them to yourself. Say them with conviction even if you don't believe them. And I'm convinced that it shall be... I do not rush. I do not stress. I am well taken care of. My seed is well taken care of. I have peace. I am prepared.  God has prepared me for the place I'm in now. So I will not walk in fear. I walk in confidence. I am organized. My home is clear and spacious. My car is clear and clean. My life is not hectic. My life has orde...